A supportive family and good friends can encourage you during tough times and offer help when you need it.
Your family & friends likely share similar feelings of frustration & confusion. Many of their responses to your condition may fall into two categories: Caretaking & Punishing.
Other’s Reponses to your Pain Condition
|Overly care-taking||Not asking about pain/symptoms||Try to help but can’t|
|Asking about your pain often||Diverting/distracting (redirecting focus)||Frustrated|
|Taking on more responsibility||“what would they tell you at your pain rehabilitation program?”||Angry/resentful|
|“pillow fluffing” (unnecessarily pampering)||Things seem “normal”||Guilty|
Coaching your loved ones:
- Let loved ones know that the most helpful response is to remain neutral
- Punishing & caretaking responses: encourage you to focus on pain & symptoms rather than on rehabilitation.
- Talk to your loved ones and let them know what helps you
- Allow your loved ones the opportunity to express their feelings about your pain